MeiMei Fox: The Life Out Loud: Top 10 Reasons to Elope
November 3, 2011 § Leave a comment
Here are my top 10 reasons why you might consider eloping.
1. You’ll minimize stress.
My girlfriends and I like to joke about “the wedding train.” It’s as though weddings operate with an engine of their own, regardless of how much fuel you choose to put into them. The moment you step on board, budgets, people’s emotions, your time commitments, and everything else associated with the event spirals out of control.
Elopement is one sure-fire way to ensure you don’t end up boarding the Wedding Express. You simply choose your destination, then drive your own car at your desired pace, with minimal stress involved.
2. You won’t hurt anyone’s feelings. Or you’ll hurt everyone’s equally.
No sooner have you announced that you’re engaged, than your mother, your partner’s father, and your ex-best friend from middle school are stepping in with their suggestions of what/when/where and who. First area of contention: the guest list. It doubles. Then triples. Do you really have to invite your second cousin once removed? Your yoga friend who recently connected with you on Facebook? Your dad’s former business partner?
Avoid the problem entirely by not having a guest list. You might offend everyone, but at least you don’t have to play favorites.
3. You can put the money to a good cause.
The moment they hear the word “wedding,” everyone in the service industry–hotel reservationists, photographers, musicians, florists, bands and DJs, designers and printers–begin salivating. Prices double.
Kiran and I spent approximately $300 on our wedding: license; courthouse ceremony provided by a lovely middle-aged woman with a gentle manner; and witness (it turned out that the dog didn’t count, from a legal standpoint, so we had to pay for another woman from the courthouse to attend our service). We are now able to donate several thousand dollars to our favorite causes, like Surf for Life, a San Francisco-based non-profit that’s building a school for underserved kids in Costa Rica and El Salvador.
4. You don’t have to waste time on wedding gift returns.
After my first wedding, I spent a year dealing with gifts that hadn’t been on our registry. It’s the thought that counts, of course, and I appreciated everyone’s generosity. But the black lacquered wall clock in the shape of Thailand that one well-intentioned family friend gave us just wasn’t going to fit with our modern loft décor.
I might get in big trouble for saying this, but oh well, it has been over a decade: I took back what I could, collecting store credits that I later used mostly to purchase wedding gifts for other people. The remaining items ended up at Goodwill, or as office holiday party “bad taste gift exchange” offerings.
5. You say good-bye to heinous bridesmaid dresses.
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